I will be the first to tell you I am not an expert at anything, but I do know about the things I have been through in my life, thus far. Everything happens for a reason. We can learn from everything we go through in life and become a better version of ourselves because of it. With that being said, I want to be a motivational speaker. I have had numerous people close to me say that I have not done anything. And I get that.
In all honesty, I have never had a full-time job. In full disclosure, I had been offered somewhere between 70 – 80 part-time jobs from my late teens to my late 20’s. This is not something I am proud of. I was very immature, and I really wanted to see if I could get the job. I had no interest in working most of them (I still miss being a Visitor Locker Room Attendant – Atlanta Hawks). It’s a sad truth. I can admit that. A few years ago, I stopped doing that. I no longer wanted to waste the potential employer’s time or my own. And I finished my 10.5 years of college and was my dad’s primary caregiver until his eventual death in August of 2017.
I am not trying to sound “woe is me” or anything close to that, but since I was little, I had always felt defeated and trying to play catch up to my peers. I found out my mom had cancer three months before my 5th birthday. Since I could remember, I was always dealing with knowing that my mom was going to pass away sooner than later. And then my dad sending me to live in Florida with my aunt was very hard, because I was taken away from being with my sister and my home very soon after my mom passed away (that’s a story for another day).
The term underdog may not be the right word, but it gives you a better picture of how I felt growing up. I am not saying that I physically wanted for anything growing up, but things would never seem to go my way. I was just used to it. I loathed my college experience (we can save that whole thing for another time, as well).
Going to Israel was an eye-opening experience. I was 24 years old on my trip. I was probably a little over half way finished with college. It was great to be with 40 other Jewish Young Adults, who, for the most part, had graduated college and were in the “real world.” Four and a half years later, I joined them with my own sheet of paper that had my first, middle, and last name on it! It was very humbling!
A week after I got home from my trip to Israel, my dad started on Dialysis and the rest is history. It was one more time I asked myself, “When is this going to stop?” I realize I have not had it the worst in the world, but I feel I have been tested more than the average person my age. And as I reflect on all that I have been through, on one hand, I am very sad that I am 32 years old and I cannot call either one of my parents just to say hello. I hope to meet a nice Jewish girl one day and get married – And I will never get to have a mother/son dance.
With everything I have been through, I feel I have a story to tell. I think I see this world a little differently than your average 32-year-old. I no longer sweat the small stuff (for the most part). And I try to only worry about things I can control. If you do not have your health, then quite frankly, you don’t have shit. My dad was a Defense Attorney for 35 years. Worked for himself, and absolutely loved what he did every single day, but never took care of his health until it was too late. For close to a year, he was on me every day telling me I needed to lose weight and get healthier. I kept telling him that I knew I needed to, but at the time, obviously I was not willing to put in the work to be successful.
Now, almost nine months after he has passed away, I have lost close to 50 pounds. I wish I had started this when he was still alive. I know he would be very happy. Everyone can say, “Well, Scott, I know he sees you!” Let’s keep it real – Even if that is the case, we can all admit it is not the same thing! This is something I really regret. If there is anything you have been thinking about doing and keep putting it off, then just shut the hell up and start it. It does not have to be perfect the first day. Just. Start. It. You are never guaranteed anything in this life, and I do not want you to have regret like I do.
I was determined to change my trajectory and no longer feel sorry for myself. I want to let others know that things may happen to you, but it is up to YOU to change the outcome and not wait for anyone else to change it for you… Because I can promise you one thing – Only YOU can and will be able to do that!